Lately pooping has been such a traumatic experience for Evan. He’s developed this severe FEAR of going #2. He knows he should be going on the potty, but he is terrified of it!! When he does finally go, in his pull up, he is all out crying and is so upset that he didn’t go in the potty. He gets sooo embarrassed. I’m just totally stumped about what I can do to help him overcome this fear.
I know right now he is learning/understanding fears, because he makes comments that show us this. When he climbs the stairs, he says, “I don’t want to fall!”, when he climbs up on something, he says, “I be careful Mommy!” When he was eating a piece of candy this weekend, he said, “I don’t want to choke.” So I totally get that this is just a learning/realization phase, but how do I get him to even be open to the idea of going #2 on the potty?
Right now when he has to go, he’ll tell us he needs to go potty but when you put him on the toilet seat, he leaps off it like it’s on fire crying “No, Mommy, No, I don’t want to!” It’s so heartbreaking!
I’ve been giving him prune juice, lots of high fiber fruits and vegetables, and even gummy fiber supplements to keep his movements soft, but that doesn’t seem to ease his anxiety. I just ordered a book for him from Amazon called “It Hurts When I Poop!: A Story for Children Who Are Scared to Use the Potty” by Bennett Howard, M.D. I’m really hoping that this book will help him.
Does anyone else have any suggestions on what may work?